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When our son Jack was born with Down syndrome, we found out we had a lot to learn. Not just about the best way to nuture our child so he would grow up as healthy as possible, but about the whole world of special needs. One thing we learned, children born in some countries who have special needs generally don't go home with their mom & dad. They go to baby orphanages. We have decided to adopt one of these little angels, a beautiful girl with Down syndrome. We found our new daughter through an organization called Reece's Rainbow. They advocate for these little ones, trying to get them into the arms of their forever families. Please go visit. There is a button on the left. These children will touch your heart.







Sunday, September 11, 2011

One of many truths

I read a post on facebook today. It wasn't posted by one of my friends, but by a friend of a friend. She said that when people use money as the only reason they don't want to adopt, it's bull. She said that the money comes; it's provided. We need to have faith, and the money will come.

But she's wrong, wrong, wrong. WRONG. We had to borrow money. A whole butt-load of it. We had fundraisers that were a bust. People that said would help and then didn't. A couple of things fell completely through. $12,000. I don't regret it. I would do it again. But if we had no way to borrow the money, we would have been screwed. If we were to ever do it again, I would know better. I would do more myself, instead of waiting. I would beg my ass off and annoy and offend the few remaining friends I have left like some other families do.

International adoption is crazy, ridiculously expensive. It's a very real reason to be hesitant. Considering we're taking a "burden" off their hands(their words, not mine), you would think they would be happy to give us our beautiful babies but they figured us out. They realized we would pay. The more they ask, the more we pay. It's never too much to save a life, we say. And darn it, we can't just say no. But it simply isn't true that the money will just appear. Raising the money is hard, hard, hard. The whole process is hard, but the money aspect makes it miserable.

So I'm not disparaging adoption. But the financial burden is real. Have a plan A, B, and C. Keep posting, asking for ideas, for help, for ways to spread the word. Our babies ARE worth it.
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  1. LinneaSeptember 12, 2011 at 9:01 AM

    I wrote that post. I am tired of people coming to me saying that if they had the extra 30 grand laying around they would do it. You didnt have the money, I didnt have the money I dont know anyone you had the extra 30 grand or 40 or 75,000 laying around to do this, but we did it. You did it, I did it and it got done. You are right they should give us the kids they dont want, but they dont and are greedy so we pay. But it all gets paid. You have your child in your home do you not? Some way the money was gotten, the ransom was paid. Whether you had to borrow, fundraise, beg, what ever it was paid and she is home with you where she belongs.

    Be blessed

    Ashlee

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  2. LinneaSeptember 12, 2011 at 9:30 AM

    I dont know if my last comment went through or not because it said error 405 but I did want to say that the whole post was about a little girl needing a home it wasnt about money. There was a very small part about money. I wont apologize for what I said about the money either. I have faith God will get the child home and the money I have faith will be taken care of. Your daughter is home right now. My son is home, tons of other children are home right now, so God was and always is faithful. Affording an adoption should be the very least of ones reasons as to why they dont adopt.

    Be blessed

    Ashlee

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